Imaginary Convo 3

17 Adar 5773

Boy: What did I do wrong?
*but in his eyes he says, 'why don't you love me?', 'why don't you want to love me?'*

Girl: You did nothing wrong. I like and respect you.
    I respect everyone.
    I like almost everyone.
    There are very few people whom I admire.
    I would like my husband to be one of them.

B: And you don't admire me?

G: I do not.

B: Why?

G: Admiration is an emotion, boy. It is its presence not its absence that must be justified.
    You inspire other emotions in me to be sure; compassion, empathy, concern.
    But not admiration.

B: Are there any men you do admire?

G: Yes.

B: Would you marry any of them?

G: I don't know, boy. I don't know.
    Admiration is not a sufficient condition for love.

B: What else is necessary?

G: I don't know. Longing, maybe. Joy, commitment, trust.

B: And you don't feel any of those for me:

G: I might have once, but not anymore.